Well, it has been about three months since I last blogged here. Yes, I’ve done a bit for Legion of Leia and I am contributing to a Star Trek: The Next Generation anthology, both great side projects that I am excited about! However, I have found it very hard to blog about my usual fun geek topics in light of the chaos and turmoil that has enveloped our country since the election. As a feminist, ally, champion of the environment and education, granddaughter of immigrants, and just as a woman, I have felt demoralized. The cold winter months don’t help, either. I probably have a bit of SAD – seasonal affective disorder, but you don’t need to live in the frigid northeast to feel deeply worried and saddened by the policies being enacted in Washington, DC right now.
I did, however, participate in the DC Women’s March. I could have attended the one in NYC, since it is closer to my house, but I felt a strong need to drive to DC, crash at my cousin’s place, and march on the capitol. It was extremely empowering to be taking action with the hundreds of thousands that attended in DC and the million-plus worldwide who marched in solidarity with Americans who believe in love, tolerance, and inclusion. Inspired by the memory of Carrie Fisher (who I wanted to blog about but her death simply made me feel more disheartened and sad), I put out a request for a badass lady geek march poster design and the universe answered. My friend Lindsey put me in touch with Sal Virgilio, who designed this masterpiece:
Can I get a HELL YES? Also, my favorite chant was “we need a leader, not a creepy tweeter!” So appropriate.
On the way home from the march, the drive took over 6 hours. So much traffic! But as I listened to my empowering lady music, I felt a well of emotion overtake me and I started to cry. I felt connected to others, random strangers, who believed the same way I did and wouldn’t go down without a fight. I felt incredibly sad that we even have to fight this fight in the year 2017. I felt like the voters who didn’t vote for progress were letting down so many of their fellow Americans, to the point of taking away their healthcare and vital human rights. I felt gratitude that I was able to march, to hear feminist luminary Gloria Steinem speak, to stand alongside women of color and targeted minorities and tell them with my presence that they weren’t going to fight alone.
Another reason for the prolonged absence is a job hunt! Yes, I am on the market and ready to roll in the digital content, event planning, and social media/marketing arenas. Job hunting is the WORST, amiright? Thankfully, I have been networking like crazy and have already gotten several positive responses. Thanks to all my peeps who gave me detailed resume guidance and helped with the digital portfolio progress! I know some pretty awesome rockstars who are taking their respective fields by storm. From media influencers to women in STEM, you know who you are.
Still, Ryan Gosling thinks I could use a confidence boost.
Another note on the feminist front – I am finding that I simply cannot listen to songs from artists that have gone against women in their music or in their public statements and actions. I quite enjoy country music, but some of those country bros have got to go. Toby Keith, you’re out (and really, he’s been out since he defamed my beloved Dixie Chicks). Blake Shelton, you’re a damn cheater. Robin Thicke? Gross. Anything by Kanye? Never. Even old-school songs that either objectify women or are blatantly sexist that we usually excuse as a product of their time, like “Wishin’ and Hopin'” by Dusty Springfield or “Stand by Your Man,” are just a no-go.
Has anyone else found this to be true for themselves? I just can’t put up with that nonsense anymore, reinforcing anything relating to Cheeto Satan’s worldview or how he and his ilk think women should behave/look.
The title of this post is a straight up lyric steal from my fave badass lady of country music, Miranda Lambert. I’ve loved Miranda since her debut album, Kerosene, in 2005. In fact, she and I were born only four days apart (same year!) and I feel the fire of a fellow passionate, fierce Scorpio burning off her in every way. Her most recent album, The Weight of These Wings, has been the nonstop soundtrack to my life going on four straight months. Check out this ringing endorsement from Rolling Stone that breaks it down, track by track. Her lyrics are so powerful, and “The Keeper of the Flame” is the most feminist country song I’ve ever heard. She pays tribute to the ladies who came before her and pledges to continue the fight. It is seriously epic. My favorite song from this double album (with two parts – The Nerve and The Heart. How great is that?) is “We Should Be Friends.” I identify with this song hardcore! Miranda, I would be the greatest girlfriend you ever had. Call me and let’s get a beer.
Just go download it now.
You know how when you put something off, and put it off again, that it only gets harder? That was how I felt about this blog post. I remember pledging more realism to my readers and more honest content over two years ago. It turns out that this is very difficult! I think my on-stage presence and the truths I told in front of thousands of geeks in 2016 were really an extension of moving beyond the blog. Also, I don’t process emotional moments right away and write about them immediately (see: Carrie Fisher’s death, a rough TV finale, or even a great trip). But I promise that when I do, my writing will be from the heart.
On Deck for 2017
2017 has not been good to me so far, but I’m still hoping to turn this around. As part of the effort, we have two trips planned in the next two months! Thank the flying spaghetti monster. I need a vacation so bad (and one that doesn’t involve conventioning, much as I love it). So just to close out, I wanted to give you a little rundown of my schedule and where I hope to be, convention- and otherwise, this year.
End of March: I’ll be in Hawaii, serving as a bridesmaid for one of my oldest and best friends, Susan. I cannot wait to return to The Island and make more happy memories there. This will be my husband and my third visit to Oahu. We LOVE IT. Also, Lanikai Juice better get ready for me! They make the best acai bowls in the world.
April 7 – 9, Lunacon: After connecting with several planners for this event, I was invited to add some content to this long-running scifi convention. I’m hoping to host panels on TV shows such as Stranger Things and Orphan Black. It takes place at the Westchester Marriott in Tarrytown, NY (where I got married! Home of The Legend of Sleepy Hollow!).
April 15, Star Wars Celebration: After years of supporting me in my Star Trek nerding, I got my husband tickets to this fabled event in Orlando, Florida. He will finally have a place to wear his Star Wars t-shirts (instead of wearing them to Trek events!). We are going to celebrate 40 years of Star Wars in grand galactic style! Felicity Jones, among other talent, will be on hand. Long live Jyn Erso!
June 3-4, BookCon: I have been to BookCon for several years now, and I view it as a less-insane NYCC with more authors that I love! Hopefully I’ll get to meet Sarah Dessen again. She’s not currently scheduled, but I will try and wear her down via Twitter.
July 7 – 9, Shore Leave convention: This smaller Maryland convention is in its 39th year, and I was invited to sit on one or more panels! Details to come.
A few events are too far out for definitive planning, but I’m also looking into presenting panels at Escape Velocity in DC and GeekGirl Con in Seattle. I’m also chatting with ReedPop about their plans to bring back Mission NY for another year. Labor Day weekend is such a black hole, however, what with DragonCon, Fan Expo Toronto, and probably some con I’m missing, that I’m not sure I can even do Escape Velocity. My top pledge is to Mission NY, or whatever city it may land in next. Plus, 2017 marks 30 years of Star Trek: The Next Generation! Hence my participation in that anthology. Which I better go finish…
Thanks for still reading despite my long absence. I will still be writing on here and hope you continue to follow along. I think my next post will be on all the TV we’re about to get once this long winter is over. Thus, I’d like to ask if you are watching The Expanse, which I am seriously enjoying right now. Although season one saw only a few (yet vital) female characters, I hope they are headed toward more equal screen time in season two. With the additional of some hardcore Martian Marines and the unexpected turn that last week’s episode took, I am really intrigued and enjoying the direction the show is taking. Watch now and report back!